“You hear, about some kid did something stupid– something desperate. What possessed him? How could he do such a terrible thing? Well, (come here) It’s really quite simple, actually. Consider life of a teenager, huh? You have parents, teachers telling you what to do. You have movies, magazines, and TV telling you what to do, but you know what you have to. Huh? Your job, your purpose is to get accepted, get a cute girlfriend, and think up something great to do for the rest of your life. What if you’re confused and you can’t imagine a career? What if you’re funny looking and can’t get a girlfriend? You see, no one wants to hear it. But the terrible secret… is that being young, is sometimes less fun then being dead. Suicide is wrong…” – Mark Hunter – Pump Up the Volume
This quote is the quote that begins this post, where we begin, and where we will end. The topic of this post is about two things that have happened in my life, Bullying and Suicide. I’ve personally been bullied, and I’ve personally known over a dozen people that have committed suicide.
Being a guy, being bullied is a large degree different than being bullied if you are a girl. There is much more for girls to be bullied for. I’m not going to go into the comparative differences because I do not think that needs to be said, as that is not what this is about.
We’re all worried, we’re all in pain. That just comes with having eyes and having ears. But just remember one thing – it can’t get any worse, it can only get better. High school is the bottom, being a teenager sucks, but that’s the point, surviving it is the whole point. Quitting is not going to make you stronger, living will. So just hang on and hang in there. – Mark Hunter – Pump Up the Volume
Someone tortured, and stalked, and terrorized a little girl for a mistake she made, and drove her to take her own life. Her own school mates, taunted and teased her for the mistake she made by calling her names.
This mistake was flashing her breasts online, the catch is she was 12 when she did it, and whoever was at the other end of the connection, must have been over 18 and recorded it. This is a crime in multiple jurisdictions.
The stalking and torture of a child for their mistakes, is something I hope you are found out for, whoever you are. I know the Karma that is now yours to come and return to you 10 fold. You murdered her by proxy, I hope you are happy with yourself.
My point here is to not minimize what this girl did, but to express my sadness that no one would reach out that saw her video. Had I known about it, and had I seen it, I would have reached out. I’m saddened I did not know about this video, to be able to reach out and help this girl.
There are so many supports out there, and this girl needed medication to help her. She was severely depressed, and severely emotionally and mentally unstable. Why were supports not given, and the medical and psychological assistance not there? When a child attempts to commit suicide once, that is a clear sign that there is something that NEEDS to be looked at. I am disturbed by the fact that supports are supposed to be in place to help people, but somehow this one child slipped through the system, and through the cracks.
Ever since Facebook has started, and kids now have cell phones, bullying has increased over 20 fold. This is because kids do not see the effect and affect that their words have on people. This is a systemic problem of people becoming completely disconnected from each other and using texting to communicate. It removes the personal emotional guilt that people may get when they bully someone. In many people’s eyes, it becomes a victimless crime. The thought “just because I don’t see it in front of my face does not make it real”, this is where the problem is with our society, and how we communicate.
Society has become impersonal, and uncaring. Text on a screen does not matter because I’m not saying it to your face. The fact is, words still hurt regardless of if they are said to your face, or if they are written via text on a screen. Many times you cannot judge how another person will perceive the text, and how they will react.
But here was this child crying out for help and a friend desperately wanting someone to say everything will be ok. But now, things will never be ok.
For Years, these hateful words cut this girl like a knife into her soul, to the point where she felt she had no other choice but to end her own life.
Amanda Todd did not deserve to be bullied, stalked, tortured, hated, berated, humiliated, emasculated, and left to feel all alone.
I will end this post with this video: